Looking to find your life partner and settle down? If you’ve decided that it’s time to meet your soul mate, let’s take a look at how to do it.
There comes a time in everyone’s life when we decide that we want to find our life partner. Some decide to search while they’re super young, deciding that they want the security of a lasting relationship before they plough ahead with the rest of their life, while others just chance upon their life partner without even looking. Some of us, though, leave searching for a life partner until we’re into our thirties. Previously, we just wanted to have some fun. Whatever age you are, you’re at the stage now that many others are at. Perhaps you’ve seen how happy your friends who have found their life partners are and decided that you want that kind of happiness.
Being single certainly has its benefits – not least the freedom to do whatever you want – but there comes a time in everyone’s life when we want to share ours with someone else. We want to kiss them in the morning, to indulge in pillow talk with them at night; to travel with them, dream with them, and live with them. Let’s take a look at how to choose a life partner with whom you’ll be happy.
Don’t Make Your Choice Out Of Fear
Ever recall a friend of yours saying to you that they’re not entirely happy in their relationship, but that they’re going to stick it out because they “don’t want to get left on the shelf”? It happens. Women need security more than guys do, and many – if not all – of us have a tremendous fear of being “left on the shelf” (for want of a better way of putting it.) However, staying in a relationship simply out of fear is just not good enough. When it comes to choosing your life partner, you must have the confidence that you will find them no matter what, and that you don’t have to settle for second best. Stop fearing the worst that will happen if you quit the life you have right now, and start dreaming of what could happen if you took a few risks.
Not happy with the relationship you’re in? Have the faith to leave it behind and start over on your quest to finding the partner who will well and truly make you happy.
Be Prepared To Make A Move
Traditionally, it’s always been the guys who have made the first move. We expect them to ask us out. But not all guys are confident. Despite how much someone likes you, he might not be bold enough to ask you out. It doesn’t mean he’s a wimp and not a man – perhaps he’s been hurt in the past. Sometimes, you have to take matters into your own hands. If you feel that a certain someone is the one for you, be bold enough to make the first move and let him know. You don’t want to be left with regrets.
Give Them A Chance
Ever turned a guy down because he wasn’t your type? Maybe a friend recommended you someone, but you said “are you kidding me?” and remained single. Think back to a time you tried something new that you was previously unsure of. Maybe you gave sports a go after years of resisting, or perhaps you checked a new band out that you never thought you’d like. And what happened? You loved it!
Many of us have preconceptions about what we like, and errantly believe that our likes and dislikes are fixed. But says who? There is absolutely no evidence that our list of likes and dislikes are somehow fixed at birth. But many of us have a prejudice against trying things that, for whatever reason, we’ve decided will cause us pain and not pleasure. And when it comes to dating, it could be preventing you from meeting your life partner.
Stop saying No to guys because their music taste differs to yours. Stop saying No to guys who don’t have the haircut you like. Be open minded. Give people a chance.
Know Your Values
What can make it hard for us to choose our life partners is not knowing what our own life values are. Put simply, your values are the things that ultimately sway all your decision making. If health is your number one value, you will do the things that make sure you stay healthy. But do you know what your values are? Many of us don’t. And when we don’t know what our values are, we find it very hard to meet our life partner whose values match ours. Write down a list of your values. You can order them later. Knowing what your values are means you can lookout for these in your partner.
When your values match up, there is a much greater chance that the two of you will be happy together.
Do Background Checks
This almost sounds like you’re assessing a guy for a job role. But if you don’t carry out any background checks into the guy you’re dating, how can you know for sure that he is a potential life partner? Ask around. Find out if he is trustworthy. Find out if there are things he’s hiding. The last thing you want is to date a guy who it turns out has a few skeletons in his closet.
Make Yourself Available
If you’ve decided that now is the time to find your life partner, your next step is to make yourself available. In other words, you have to put yourself out there.
Finding a life partner isn’t as simple as sitting at home waiting for Prince Charming to come to you. It just doesn’t happen like that. You need to go to events, participate in things, be an active face on the social scene. Accept your friends’ invites to their parties, let yourself be introduced to new people.
And when you do go out, always wear a smile (and your best dress)!